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I agree that’s a big part of it, though not the whole story.
I don’t think it explains why certain light touches make me feel hostile.
Why I find most things in pop culture confusing and frustrating.
The fact I spend more time feeling confused than people will ever know.
That I work myself to exhaustion sometimes just trying to keep my thoughts straight long enough to accomplish something.
There’s more, but changes in society won’t solve these problems. These are problems of both the condition and my emotional reaction to it.
Not just one emotional reaction, possibly thousands over time.
This accumulation of unresolved emotional conflict can become toxic and traumatic to your nervous system.
When you can’t trust your own mind to come through for you consistently it’s difficult to be confident in your ability to keep yourself safe in the world.
That can cause an intense chronic anxiety that manifests as hyperactivity.
Society can’t change this.
This work is yours and yours alone. But you don’t have to go through it alone.
Feeling alone in it is a primary reason people stuff these feelings down and spend their lives trying to distract themselves from these feelings.
People who were already doing what I wanted to do. Living with peace, acceptance and joy while also living with challenges.
In fact! I just promoted two of the members to “Mentors”, because they’ve come so far they’ve become leaders in the group and I’m encouraging their growth in that direction. The Inner Circle has a spot available for you.
Your plans and goals aren’t owed because you want them. They are intentions.
You don’t make demands of the sea when you sail. You intend to sail and adjust as you go, depending on what the sea wants.
The sea isn’t working for or against you, it’s being the sea.
It’s your understanding of that, your allowing of that, that creates the conditions for you to succeed.
Working in cooperation with the breakthroughs and the breakdowns. From crest to trough.
You don’t force; you flow.
Instead of anxious, you’re curious.
You don’t feel stuck, you feel progress.
Learning to hold your expectations more lightly makes you less invested in them should they not work out.
This is an important step in keeping feelings of frustration and rejection at bay.
You aren’t broken. I suspect you may walk around in shoes that don’t fit.
By shoes, I mean beliefs.
Beliefs about whom you should be, what you should do with your life.
You work to live up to the expectations of the shoulds to maintain the approval of others.
You may believe their approval is the source of your worth in some way.
Those beliefs come to us from the part of our survival instinct that knows if others don’t want us around, we won’t be safe.
Though correct, there’s more than an all-or-nothing, accepted or rejected way to perceive how you’re doing in life.
You aren’t in a race or a competition of any kind. You’re a living process of growth and discovery.
With a Neurodivergent mind, you have a unique lens that can shed new light on old problems.
The challenge is learning to find the beliefs that don’t fit and replacing with ones that do.
Ones that allow you to be who you are, get what you need and make a difference in your way.
Then what you bring to the world can reduce suffering, versus adding to it.
I wish more people would consider that. Meanwhile, I’ll keep supporting the ones that do.