As you likely know, the criteria for an ADHD diagnosis is based primarily on studying males. This continues to leave countless women and girls out in the cold without the support they need to become the best version of themselves.
Now imagine that the women in question are mothers. They are typically expected to run an organized household, keep track of schedules and find time for themselves. I didn’t say this was realistic, just that it’s often expected.
Having ADHD can leave a mother feeling like she’s drowning when trying to complete the simplest of tasks. Fortunately it doesn’t have to be that way.
I’m a staunch supporter of women’s issues. Growing up, while the boys were busy measuring dicks, beating me up and excluding me, it was the girls who were there for me.
They included me and helped me become more understanding about their experiences especially as it relates to men.
I do have guy friends now but my connection with women is far more natural and I think explains in part why 99% of my clients are women.
In short ladies, I got your back.
Brian R. King, MSW grew up with undiagnosed ADHD and Dyslexia. Being mercilessly bullied by peers and some teachers, he grew up believing he was worthless.
It wasn’t until high school that Brian discovered his sense of humor and a small group of friends to see him through those years. The ride was about to become far more complicated.
Brian’s graduation present from high school was Stage 3 testicular cancer.
He spent the summer in chemotherapy fighting for his life and his sanity as he lived in virtual isolation trying to make sense of what was happening.
After learning his cancer was in remission, Brian declared that he would live a life of purpose. A life where he wasn’t ruled by anger, helplessness and bitterness. But one of conscience, compassion and social responsibility.
Brian got married, earned his Master’s Degree in Social Work and became the father of three sons. Sons who subsequently were diagnosed with Asperger’s and ADHD. Brian received his own diagnoses of ADHD and Dyslexia not long after.
Brian realized he needed to become the father his sons required him to be. So he committed to learning all he could to understand his own challenges and the challenges of his sons. He knew he needed to model the very skills his sons would need to succeed in this world. He wanted to make sure they were prepared to live as fully as possible.
One day, his wife, the mother of his children decided to leave. For a time, Brian was a single father to three special needs sons. With the help of family he was able to relocate and help his sons move forward. He remarried and started a new life.
In wasn’t long after that a series of unexplained symptoms began cropping up that resulted in pain, fatigue, increased difficulty walking and a host of other issues.
Brian finally received an answer with a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. After coming to terms with this reality, Brian remembered his commitment to modeling for his sons what it means to live fully regardless of your challenges.
Brian says frequently, “My boys are watching me live my life. I don’t want them to see helplessness and hear excuses. I want them to see positivity, resilience and resourcefulness.”
You’d be hard pressed to meet someone who can teach you so much about what it means to be human, with a generous spirit, no matter what life brings.
Brian has managed to write 5 books and give dozens of presentations throughout the world on the topics ADHD, Asperger’s, parenting and mindset.
Learning from Brian through his Breakthrough Academy is one of the best things you’ll ever do for yourself and your family.
Update: In late 2019 Brian decided to challenge the limitations of his diagnoses. Through dietary changes, physical therapy and daily exercises he has experienced a transformation.
Brian hasn’t needed to walk with a cane in several months. Is more active and recently signed on to be a spokesperson for 515 Fitness.
He has decided to finally address the excess weight he’s gained over the past many years while hEDS and MS made mobility very difficult.
He’s keeping a video journal of this process to benefit others.
Contact Brian to learn more.