Understanding the Need to Always Be Right

I'm Always Right
This approach can help cultivate stronger connections, healthier relationships and reduce your tendencies for people-pleasing. When the process is focused less on ‘you’ or ‘me’ and more on ‘we’ it virtually eliminates any competition between you and the other person.
 
On and off throughout life, I’ve found myself falling into that trap of needing to be right all the time. It’s behavior that’s used to mask raging insecurity. When dealing with someone who always insists on being right, it’s important to approach them with kindness and understanding.
 
Instead of getting into a heated argument or trying to prove them wrong, it often helps to just hear them out and show that you get where they’re coming from. Sometimes, just acknowledging their viewpoint can calm things down and open up the chance for a more relaxed conversation.
 
If their need to be right comes from feeling insecure, offering them some support and reassurance can go a long way. It might also help to gently encourage them to think about why they feel the need to always be right. Doing this without making them feel judged can help them learn more about themselves and maybe even grow a bit.
 
For example, let’s say your buddy Dave keeps insisting he knows the best way to the restaurant, even though you’re pretty sure his belief is mistaken. Instead of jumping in with “Nah, Dave, you’re totally off,” you might say something like, “Oh yeah, that way is pretty good too, but I’ve found another way that gets us there faster.” By acknowledging his idea first, you’re showing respect for his opinion while also subtly suggesting an alternative.
 
Now, if you catch yourself always needing to be right, it’s helpful to pause and ask yourself what’s at the root of it? An example of this may be the coworker you’re always butting heads with. You again catch yourself insisting your way is the right way. So you take a moment to pause and ask yourself why you’re so set on being right. Is it because you’re afraid of looking bad if you’re wrong?
 
Maybe you could try saying something like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about your suggestion, and I can see how it might actually work. Let’s give it a shot and see how it goes.” By being open to their idea, you’re not only showing respect for their contribution but also opening up the possibility for a more collaborative process and a shared win.
 
Do you know someone who needs to be right about everything?
 
How do you respond when confronted with this in someone else, or even with yourself?

This post was inspired by a conversation we had in this morning’s EMPOWER group call. EMPOWER is a paid membership I’ve run for the past five years, focused on helping women overcome the beliefs and habits that keep them from being who they are and living the life they want to lead. It’s open to women with Neurodivergence and women Without. Contact me know if you’d like more information.

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