I can be your best friend or your worst nightmare…

“I can be your best friend or your worst nightmare,” I used to say in my sons’ IEP meetings.
 
This was in the early days, when I was routinely talked down to and expected to submit to whatever plan the school came up with.
 
Keep in mind, this was a particularly ignorant school district, and my experience wasn’t unique.
 
I sought information and strategies on how to be more effective and collaborative in those meetings.
 
In the second half of their education, my first meeting with each son’s team would include this statement in some form:
 
“I’m aware my son is a handful and not always the easiest to work with. I want you to know and remember that I’ve got your back and am rooting for your success as much as his. Here’s my contact information. Reach out to me with any question or problem you want to troubleshoot.”
 
One teacher responded, “Well, that’s refreshing.”
 
By changing my approach, I became a more effective advocate for my boys. Some teachers were guarded and not open to this approach. Perhaps they were weary after so many years of the opposite and such.
 
For what it’s worth.
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