The Platinum Rule for Relating to People with AuDHD

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When we think about the Golden Rule—treating others the way we want to be treated—it doesn’t always work well for people with AuDHD. 

Everyone’s diverse, including what their needs are and how they get them met, many of which are likely counter-intuitive for you. For example, someone with AuDHD might get easily overwhelmed by loud noises or need more time to understand social cues.

That’s where the Platinum Rule comes in. This rule says we should treat others the way they want to be treated. It’s about really getting to know what makes the other person comfortable and respecting their unique way of experiencing the world.

This might mean changing how we act around them, like giving them more quiet time, being patient when they’re communicating, or understanding if they don’t like certain textures or sounds. It’s not just about being nice; it’s about being considerate and kind in a way that truly matters to the person you’re interacting with.

Remember, it’s crucial to ask and clarify your understanding of what their needs are and how to best meet them, even if you’ve guessed correctly on occasion. Preventing a misunderstanding is always better than having to resolve one.

Using the Platinum Rule isn’t just better for people with AuDHD; it’s a more thoughtful way to treat everyone. It’s about recognizing that we’re all diverse and that’s okay. It encourages us to be more understanding and flexible, making all our relationships stronger and more genuine.

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