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There are occasional concerns from members that theyโ€™re being attacked when in fact, theyโ€™re beleifs are being challenged and they take it personally.
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So I wrote something to address the issue, and I think it speaks to some general issues that are helpful for all of us. So Iโ€™m sharing it with you as wellโ€ฆ.
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๐—œ๐— ๐—ฃ๐—ข๐—ฅ๐—ง๐—”๐—ก๐—ง ๐—ฅ๐—˜๐— ๐—œ๐—ก๐——๐—˜๐—ฅ ๐—”๐—•๐—ข๐—จ๐—ง ๐—ฃ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—ฆ ๐—ฌ๐—ข๐—จ ๐—™๐—œ๐—ก๐—— ๐—จ๐—ฃ๐—ฆ๐—˜๐—ง๐—ง๐—œ๐—ก๐—š:
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Yes, it is my intention that this group be a place where we feel safe to share what we want, and have a good laugh without things becoming personal.
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I’m atheist and poke fun at religion a lot. I also lean liberal and poke fun at other points of view. Now, I also realize I need to allow those with opposing views to do the same. It’s only fair play. That’s why I encourage you all to keep scrolling if something bugs you (๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ).
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Can I promise others won’t be bothered and engage those posts – NO, I can’t control other members? Nor do I want to sift through posts flagged because someone found them “๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ”.
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What won’t be tolerated is a personal attack on someone because of the post (๐˜ฆ.๐˜จ. ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ, ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ค.). I’ll give someone a chance to self-correct, and delete the post with the personal criticism.
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We each deserve a chance to do better – which includes learning to choose our battles, and choose our responses.ย  ๐—œ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ผ – ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜†’๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜, ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ.
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This group is, and can be a respectful place, without it becoming an echo chamber for what I or anyone else believes. We aren’t here to reinforce our comfort zones. We’re hear to bond over the catharsis of laughter, and the healing benefits it provides us.
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This group isn’t a forum to convince anyone to think, act or believe differently – there are other forums for that. Being able to appreciate that other perspectives exist – whether you agree with them or not, is a reality of human society it makes more sense to accept than continuing to go to battle against at every turn. Especially at the expense of a good laugh.
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Considering I have a Master’s in Social Work – I’m highly cognizant of issues surrounding the various “๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฎ๐˜ด”, I’m a staunch advocate of inclusion for disenfranchised segments of our population.
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With that, there have been posts I felt crossed a line for me personally. When I measure those posts against the guidelines of this group – they usually don’t break one of the rules – and don’t demand removal just because they bothered me. If anything, they serve as data for some of the attitudes I can address in other areas of my life (๐˜ฆ.๐˜จ. ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ, ๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ค).
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If you find yourself routinely triggered, emotionally reactive because you saw something that challenged a beliefย  that’s very personal for you, I encourage you to reflect upon whether you have a belief that says, “๐˜—๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ” ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ “๐˜—๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ”.
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In a world as diverse as ours, those beliefs are going to leave you feeling like you’re being threatened at every turn.
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I hope what I’ve written here will suffice in providing clarification of my/the group’s position and purpose in regards to what we can and can’t post here.
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If this doesn’t work for you – it may be best for us to part ways so you can spend time where its best for you at this time. No hard feelings.
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Thanks for the joy, camaraderie and respect you bring to this group – when you embrace the spirit in which it is intended.
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Thanks for being you,
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Brian R. King, MSW
๐™€๐™ญ๐™š๐™˜๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™‚๐™ค๐™ค๐™›๐™—๐™–๐™ก๐™ก

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