
You thank the courier for the message and watch them disappear in the distance. You don’t demand they stay with you forever.
You don’t declare the courier to be part of your identity either. The job of the courier is to deliver emotional messages. Messages alerting you to the presence of threats and opportunities.
Threats and opportunities aren’t mutually exclusive by the way.
This is the kind of relationship I teach my clients how to have with their emotions. So their emotions can come and go without overwhelming or becoming a preoccupation.
Change the relationship with your emotions even slightly. They become advisors instead of adversaries.