Why use speed as a measure of intelligence?
A client and I were swapping stories earlier, about the importance of giving our neurodivergent (ND) kids the time they need to process.
That goes for their ND parents as well.
Her daughter (homeschooled) can be playing in the proximity of a lesson/teacher and be paying attention. My client knows this because she’ll see her daughter apply the lesson later when she’s ready.
Good luck finding a school that supports this learning style. This intelligent, sensitive child whose nervous system relates to and processes information differently. She just needs more time.
I work with many bright ND kids who believe they’re stupid. Simply because other students answer questions more quickly or finish tests sooner.
A house built quickly isn’t a better house.
I have difficulty processing in real time and appear forgetful, have difficulty finding words and such. Give me the time I need to process and I can speak eloquently and intelligently.
The urgency and impatience inherent in our culture has us believing pausing is indicative of lying.
It could also indicate a person trying to think before they speak.
You have a right to pause and allow your brain to work at whatever speed it needs to for you to think clearly.
We could all do with more opportunities to pause, reflect and respond more mindfully. Don’t you think?