When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids.

We have FB friends in common it seems.

I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much.

I couldn’t see him.

I didn’t know the person I was looking at now. I didn’t know his story, who he had become.

I only know what I remember.

I also remembered I’m no longer the same person. No longer the frail, insecure child so easily preyed upon.

Also not someone who wants him to suffer because of decisions he made as a kid. When he was clearly troubled.

The world is better with healed people in it. That’s what I want for him and anyone else who causes suffering as they wrestle with their gremlins.

It’s a far lighter and more peaceful existence to wish peace rather than punishment upon someone.

Especially when it comes to people from our past.

I find it difficult to nurture my own peace without wanting to include others.

Healing frees you from a desire to get even because you have to let go of the role of victim.

Does it mean you weren’t a victim at that moment, no? It means you don’t have to be one for the rest of your life.

Heal what you can.

Your present is waiting for you to take your eyes off the past long enough to meet it.

How do you feel about change?

Listen to this post … One assumption many parents and professionals make is that people with Neurodiversity aren’t motivated to improve their lives. It isn’t that they don’t want to change, they may not believe they’re able to change. They often have difficulty finishing what they start or getting started at all. Struggle with creating

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Thoughts on setting boundaries and sticking to them

When learning to set boundaries it can feel uncomfortable to do. Like breaking in a pair of new shoes. You have to walk around in them for a while before they feel natural.You may even feel like you’re being mean to others you’re setting boundaries with. Especially because many of them will say so.It’s important

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Getting things done when you don’t know how long it’ll take

Listen to this post … One of the challenges with time blindness is when you have a long to do list. It can be anxiety inducing because estimating how long it’ll take you is a shot in the dark. I don’t feel time passing unless I have a clock or clouds to watch, something that tells

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Nipping IMPULSIVITY in the bud!

Listen to this post … Not thinking before blurting out an embarrassing comment. Doing things that upset others as a matter of habit, only to regret them later. The seeming inability to learn from any of this is a hallmark of ADHD. I used to get in so much trouble because of this. The reason for impulsivity

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When a neurodivergent person seems controlling, they may just feel unsafe

Listen to this post … Saying someone has, “control issues” is often a misnomer. For neurodivergent folks its often an issue with anxiety. Feeling confused in a fast, noisy world demands you find something you can hold onto. Something to help you feel safe. It can be a collection, a routine, a mantra, a person whose word you

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Movement can be help you work through your emotions

Listen to this post … One of the best reasons to include movement breaks into your schedule is because movement plays an important role in relieving stress. Feeling trapped is a hallmark of a traumatic experience or an anxiety attack. Feeling like you can’t fight or flee. An example might be a child who is having severe

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