When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

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You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year.
 
Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says.
 
Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity affects your life.
 
You may see failures as evidence of what you can’t do instead of as evidence of simply what doesn’t work.
 
When you think about how you’re living now, you may have a feeling that things aren’t working.
 
Though you struggle to determine what, specifically isn’t working. You know once you determine that, you decide what you’d like instead. Then, of course, you can get busy creating it.
 
A way to help figure out what isn’t working, is to ask yourself this.
 

If I want to feel better than I do now, is there anything I need to:

👉 Keep doing?
👉 Stop doing? or
👉 Start doing?

Make sure one of the things you stop doing is basing your feelings of success on other people’s happiness.

This doesn’t mean ignore the impact of your actions on others. It means that your internal celebration of a job well done.

The gratitude you feel toward yourself for showing up, for you – is enough.

Comparison, impatience and competition are habits encouraged by those who wish to exploit your insecurities.

You don’t have to drink from those wells when there’s a fountain inside you.

The fountain is the fluid experience you’re having this moment. It tells you everything about where you’re at, but not where you’ll end up.

What is undeniable, is that you must take the first step in order to get started.

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