What will others think if I tell them I’m actually confused when they all seem to know what’s going on?
We can be hanging out together like always and suddenly I feel disoriented and nothing makes sense. It can even be a little scary.
This, or something like it, happening is a common fear of people with neurodiversity. Sometimes there are many conversations happening at once. Some folks talk fast.
Any number of things can overload your brain circuits and cause a temporary short circuit.
Sometimes my brain can keep up but sometimes it doesn’t kick in. Your brain can be like that unreliable car you have to push to get it started.
If only you knew when those times were going to be. Alas, they’re unpredictable. You may fear others discovering your vulnerability.
If you have this fear often one thing to consider is your social circle.
Nit picky, teasing, trash talking types may be less likely to express empathy and extend you grace during these moments.
People who themselves are more accepting of their own mistakes. Those who handle disappointment with flexibility instead of anger. These are the people you want around you.
There’s a reason swimmers choose water instead of oil. The environment you put yourself in to try and be your best matters.
It’s difficult to meet your needs and be at your best when hanging with people you don’t feel safe enough with to ask for what you need.
A few things to consider. Your current circle may have no idea of your struggles and may surprise you.
You could take a chance and speak up to see if they step up.
If they don’t, you take the necessary steps to bring new people into your life to add more water to your pool.
The answer should never be a life of keeping your needs to yourself because of a lack of those who understand.