It may not be a motivation problem

As someone living with ADHD, what looks like a lack of motivation may be resistance to the pain of progress.

Our failure rate is much higher than for the average person because of our executive functioning glitches.

We also receive significantly more criticism as a result.

So if you decide to set and pursue goals it can often feel like you’re choosing to be a glutton for failure and criticism.

If the successes don’t feel big enough for you to counter balance the negativity it may not seem worth it to you.

A few ideas.

It’s important to take on things where you can set the pace for yourself. Keep your frustration level low and do your best to enjoy the process. Slow and steady is your motto.

Find a mentor who can be a voice of reason and encouragement. You’ll need someone to help keep you from sabotaging yourself. To keep you grounded in the present.

Learn not to place as much attention on the time and effort between successes. Learn to enjoy the process as well as the success.

When you no longer fear the discomfort of the work involved in getting from A-Z the resistance subsides.

Then it’s easier to see yourself taking action and your motivation stirs.

Just remember, motivation requires a daily recommitment to doing the work to making what you desire a reality.

That focus creates your motivation to keep going.

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