Love yourself – just because

Love thy neighbor as thyself. That’s assuming you love yourself.

We’re raised to be on our best behavior. To be friendly, polite, social.

We aren’t typically taught how to be our own best friend. Loving, supportive and understanding.

In fact, we’re often taught to feel in such a way is selfish and prideful. Self worth is selfish 🤔

But you want to feel this love and acceptance somehow and the next best way is by creating it for someone else through an act of service (e.g. kindness, friendship).

It’s a conundrum. You can accept the kindness of others and feel good about it. You can feel good because they feel good. The behavior gives you permission.

You only seem to feel good when giving is happening and people are happy.

But you’re discouraged from loving yourself just because. Without conditions.

This is the kind of love you owe to yourself. To love yourself just because.

From that place you can love yourself when you shine as well as when you stumble. When you hurt and when, in time, you heal.

You’re always worthy of love you give yourself just because.

Hmmm. That’s an interesting idea. Just because.

Want to give it a shot?

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