You’re a unicorn and don’t let anyone tell you different

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Getting a diagnosis of ADHD or Autism is bittersweet isn’t it?
 
On the one hand you know the reason you’re struggling so much isn’t because YOU’RE defective.
 
It’s because the hardwiring of you or your child’s brain is different in an understandable and manageable way.
 
On the other hand, along with the new found clarity comes the inevitable road ahead. The road ahead is the resistance you experience from relatives, friends, teachers, coworkers and strangers who refuse to get it.
 
It would be great if you could change all of their minds.
 
Let’s face it, not everyone can convince you to think as they do and that’s a good thing. You need to be able to decide for yourself what’s right for you.
 
If someone can’t “see” you, best not to keep trying to polish their eyes. Wish them well and take the next step on your journey.
 
We often make the decision to count those who don’t accept us, and consider them an indication of our worth as we seek our tribe in this world.
 
The reality is you’re a unicorn in a world of horses. A world that seeks comfort in the familiar. Folks like us with our unconventional way of seeing and being in the world are NOT wrong, we’re just unfamiliar.
 
When others don’t accept you, it usually means their horses. Some may accept you and that’s wonderful. There are those who can see beyond their comfort zones and appreciate differences. Keep showing up as yourself.
 
Just remember you’re a unicorn. You’re unique, majestic and real. You’re also not alone. There are other unicorns in the world and we’re here to accept you.

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