Want to get to know yourself?

Listen to this post ...
Want to get to know yourself?
 
Spend time alone with your thoughts without distraction.
 
For people living with ADHD or ASD this is particularly difficult.
 
What you’ll discover first is a lot of noise running through your head. If your thoughts are anxious or self critical please know you’re dealing with the real time, fear based, feedback of the primitive mind whose primary objective is to keep you alive.
 
That’s why it’s primarily negative, to keep you alert for possible danger. It isn’t interested in telling you the truth, it’s concerned about what if’s and avoiding them.
When you work from that part of your brain your thinking like a lizard not a leader.
 
It’s important to balance courage and caution.
 
Ever watch documentaries about the ocean? The surface is where things are tumultuous, but go deeper and the waters are more still.
 
The mind works in a similar way. Which is why you need to go below the surface to get to know yourself.
Most people won’t do this. They look at the surface noise and believe they have all the info they need. That’s like slurping up the foam but skipping the beer.
 
You need to go deeper to find you.
 
What you find beneath the noise and the things you’ve been conditioned to care about or fear, are things that truly light up your soul.
 
The things that make you happy whether or not anyone else approves.
 
The things that give you a sense of purpose and direction in life.
 
I wouldn’t dare try and tell you in a post what to do to go deeper because this process is a vulnerable one and it helps to do it with guidance. Just knowing someone is there to reach out to to process with when things come up in solitude is HUGE!
 
Just know you are not alone in your desire to hide from thoughts that take the wind from your sails. But also know the ocean of your mind is much deeper and there are those of us who can help you navigate it more safely so you can experience who you are with much more love, happiness and peace.

Movement can be help you work through your emotions

Listen to this post … One of the best reasons to include movement breaks into your schedule is because movement plays an important role in relieving stress. Feeling trapped is a hallmark of a traumatic experience or an anxiety attack. Feeling like you can’t fight or flee. An example might be a child who is having severe

Read More »

Can you be a little mentally ill?

Listen to this post … Think of it this way.Say you gently poke your skin with a needle. You feel a slight pain. One that isn’t going to let up as long as the needle is there. But you could keep going if you had to. Though it would be hard.The needle is mental illness.Now

Read More »

There’s no such thing as a stupid question

Listen to this post … There is no such thing as a stupid question when you live with neurodiversity. I read an email from my son’s school this morning about registering him for classes for the next term. It listed the instructions on how to do it, but guess what happened? I began reading it

Read More »

You can be sick and happy

Listen to this post … I work with many chronically ill teens.I make clear to them they can feel sick and happy.I have yet to experience anything that keeps you aware of the interplay of life’s opposites like chronic illness does.Working to find that sweet spot between pain and comfort, exhausted and rested.It’s often hard

Read More »

Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

Read More »

When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

Read More »
%d bloggers like this: