You can find the silver lining every time…

If there’s a silver lining to a rough childhood, or any difficult life experience for that matter, it’s that it was temporary.

I had a wonderful talk with a new friend this morning and we compared notes on how we endured difficult childhoods.

We both had an inner knowing things would get better one day. That was key to maintaining our perseverance.

As adults, being fed up with feeling miserable and seeing working through as a means to being free of the suffering was important as well.

We didn’t mindlessly repeat the same patterns as parents, pretend like we were without fault. We knew we were negatively impacted by our upbringing and took deliberate steps to address it.

We sought professional guidance to help us navigate this delicate journey.

Even at our age we continue to uncover and unpack some soreness and such. Hidden in emotional shadows.

Years of the wrong kind of attention can be hard to get out of your system.

All it takes to start this journey, is loving yourself enough to realize you deserve to feel better than you do now.

Can you be a little mentally ill?

Listen to this post … Think of it this way.Say you gently poke your skin with a needle. You feel a slight pain. One that isn’t going to let up as long as the needle is there. But you could keep going if you had to. Though it would be hard.The needle is mental illness.Now

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There’s no such thing as a stupid question

Listen to this post … There is no such thing as a stupid question when you live with neurodiversity. I read an email from my son’s school this morning about registering him for classes for the next term. It listed the instructions on how to do it, but guess what happened? I began reading it

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You can be sick and happy

Listen to this post … I work with many chronically ill teens.I make clear to them they can feel sick and happy.I have yet to experience anything that keeps you aware of the interplay of life’s opposites like chronic illness does.Working to find that sweet spot between pain and comfort, exhausted and rested.It’s often hard

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Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

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When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

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Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

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