You can find the silver lining every time…

If there’s a silver lining to a rough childhood, or any difficult life experience for that matter, it’s that it was temporary.

I had a wonderful talk with a new friend this morning and we compared notes on how we endured difficult childhoods.

We both had an inner knowing things would get better one day. That was key to maintaining our perseverance.

As adults, being fed up with feeling miserable and seeing working through as a means to being free of the suffering was important as well.

We didn’t mindlessly repeat the same patterns as parents, pretend like we were without fault. We knew we were negatively impacted by our upbringing and took deliberate steps to address it.

We sought professional guidance to help us navigate this delicate journey.

Even at our age we continue to uncover and unpack some soreness and such. Hidden in emotional shadows.

Years of the wrong kind of attention can be hard to get out of your system.

All it takes to start this journey, is loving yourself enough to realize you deserve to feel better than you do now.

Some great ideas for you

Listen to this post … It isn’t necessarily useful to be so attached to beliefs you currently believe most accurate. The universe is inherently playful and will usually challenge them regularly. I’ve learned over the years to share my thoughts with a spirit of “would you like to try this on”? Understanding that the beliefs you hold are

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When “I don’t know”, is your kid’s favorite answer

Listen to this post … “Why did you do that?” “I don’t know!” If you are raising a neurodiverse kid this is a familiar exchange. Few parents know where to go from here. Fortunately, I do. Einstein said, “It’s not that I’m smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” Introspection doesn’t come naturally to the neurodivergent, especially when

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Can a single criticism crush you?

Listen to this post … Ever felt criticized for saying something in the wrong “tone”? In your mind you knew it wasn’t a big deal. A misunderstanding, easy enough to correct. But seemingly out of nowhere you find yourself sobbing and feeling worthless. It’s like that one criticism reminded you of how it felt every time you

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A skill your neurodiverse child must have

As the mother of a Neurodiverse child, one skill you want your child to have is proactivity. It’s difficult to teach if your child struggles with task initiation, future thinking, anxiety. Here’s the gremlin to focus on to help remove the psychological barriers to taking charge of their life. Common statements like: “I forgot”“You didn’t tell me to”“You didn’t

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How do you feel about change?

Listen to this post … One assumption many parents and professionals make is that people with Neurodiversity aren’t motivated to improve their lives. It isn’t that they don’t want to change, they may not believe they’re able to change. They often have difficulty finishing what they start or getting started at all. Struggle with creating

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Thoughts on setting boundaries and sticking to them

When learning to set boundaries it can feel uncomfortable to do. Like breaking in a pair of new shoes. You have to walk around in them for a while before they feel natural.You may even feel like you’re being mean to others you’re setting boundaries with. Especially because many of them will say so.It’s important

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