Honesty is the price you pay for self-compassion

Self-compassion is impossible without the willingness to be completely honest with yourself.

The problem is, you aren’t raised to be honest in a loving way.

You were raised by people who cuss, shout, tell tools they’re stupid and insult themselves for making mistakes.

It’s easy for this way of handling frustration to rub off when you grow up watching it.

Equally, the thrill of successes would soon fade and need to be earned again. But that’s not necessarily easy.

This “I’m proud or I’m punishing myself” cycle is self abuse.

You’re always fighting to measure up and can’t quite keep up the demand for constant performance.

However!

When you learn to approach yourself, your life, in a more loving way, the self abuse stops.

Fascination often replaces frustration.

Remember, honesty has two sides.

🌱 The side that objectively describes the facts regarding your actions and their consequences.

🌱 The other side is the one where you remain worthy of loving no matter what.

This is a side of honesty that often resides in the shadows. Especially in your self talk.

But you know it’s in there, you’ve heard it.

Now we need to make it stronger.

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