When do you get to be yourself…

Hey Moms,

It’s hard when the memory of your childhood is of a girl who struggled throughout her life, feeling like an outsider.

✔️She wasn’t outgoing enough
✔️She was too sensitive
✔️Didn’t pay attention because she was too dreamy.
✔️Social relationships felt awkward and superficial

People around you seemed to want different things from you. You learned to be different things to different people to keep their approval.

But you rarely, if ever, got to be yourself.

You learned that wearing a variety of hats, fulfilling a variety of roles is what made you valuable to others.

But you must be doing, serving, in order to have value.

What about the “being” responsible for the doing. Isn’t she worth something?

What if she just wants a day to be. Not keeping an appointment, rescuing someone or being someone else’s everything?

When does this little girl, who has grown into a woman, get to love herself for who she is?

It can be confusing to find your way in life when you keep shuffling through the various roles you play in search of the one that’s ultimately you.

None of them are.

The roles were created in response to the mistaken belief that being who others want you to be makes you worthy.

Once you realize this mistake, you can spend the next chapters of your life letting go of the roles.

When you find the true you beneath those layers, it’s the happiest feeling.

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