Trust and trust again…

Trust and trust again until you find those who truly value it.

🌱 People who support your growth
🌱 Who honor your vulnerability
🌱 Who let you be you

Those are the people to surround yourself with.

I was talking with my sons at dinner and shared this with them.

I used to think the solution was building up their social skills so they’d be able to hold their own in a conversation. My sons live with ASD and ADHD.

That’s well and good, but if you’re blind to your own vulnerabilities it can make you more of a target.

The foundation of any interpersonal skills is self awareness.

I encouraged them to work on being more honest with themselves about what they need help with to live the life they want.

Emphasizing, of course, that at age 50 I still struggle with this. So allow yourself to remain in process and get better and better at this over time.

The cast of characters in your social circle will ideally level up as you grow into the depth of who you truly are.

It hurts to have your trust violated. It can feel dangerous to trust again.

Think about how good it feels when you find the person you know will catch you if you fall.

Now imagine having many relationships like this.

It’s powerful. It’s possible.

I have a community just like this.

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Movement can be help you work through your emotions

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