Mom, two steps back is a beautiful way to succeed…

Mom, two steps back is a beautiful way to succeed…

You know the expression, “One step forward, two steps back.” You feel like you’re getting somewhere then experience a setback.

How do you handle those moments, do you hope no one saw it?

I suggest we focus on the forward and back as the teacher of this lesson.

Progress and setback/stepback are such a common experience because both are necessary for progress.

It’s hard to get back up if you never fall.

If you’ve ever fished you know that you occasionally need to put slack in the line when you’re reeling in a strong fish. Otherwise your line could snap.

You reel it in a bit (one step forward), allow for slack (2 steps back).

When you want to see something up close (1 step forward), or create a little distance to get a big picture view (2 steps back).

When you dance with a partner you aren’t always leading, you may not know the dance or like the music.

Kinda like life. Life is your partner and leads you in all sorts of directions. You dance, one step forward, two steps back. Then maybe five steps forward and one step back.

You get the idea, yes?

Progress is linear only in the perfectionists mind.

You see this while trying to be the best parent, spouse or friend.

Something that works great today may not work tomorrow. Keep dancing.

If you’re self-conscious and think things go wrong because of you, you’re missing the big picture.

Take two steps back and check the big picture. The big picture takes into consideration the fact there are more things out of your control than in your control in any situation.

You’re doing the best you can without the skills of a Broadway dancer.

Fortunately, you don’t need to be a Juilliard graduate to dance with life.

You just need to be teachable, humble and flexible. Flexible enough to learn your unique rythym.

When you need to push (one step forward) and rest (two steps back).

Find your balance so you don’t snap like a fishing line.

The Moms in my Inner Circle make great strides in finding better balance without any guilt.

You’re welcome to join us https://bit.ly/2Y3uG9q

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