How’s your peace of mind today, Mom?

On a scale from Zen Master (1) – Chicken Little (10), how much anxiety do you pack into a typical day?

It doesn’t help that you can’t rest when you need to, someone always needs something.

You make all the appointments, run the errands because no one else has time, etc.

The hamster wheel existence of today’s mom has a key feature that Moms everywhere have a right to declare.

The right to say, “No” without guilt.

I was talking about this on a call with the Moms in my Inner Circle.

Something they’ve learned to let go of is the idea that giving to yourself is taking from someone else.

You don’t buy anything for yourself because one of the kids may need something.

I’ll tell you a secret. The person with the most love to give, is the person who first loves herself.

Of course being loved by others is great and essential for your well being.

But if you don’t love yourself, you won’t allow love from others into your heart. Like being ashamed to invite a stranger into your home.

A Mom who has learned to love and respect her own needs is more confident, compassionate and calm.

The calm is a big one. It shows you have the peace of mind of knowing where your responsibility ends.

It makes it easier to close your eyes at night knowing that the things that matter most are the things that get your time and attention.

Other things are delegated and in some cases let go completely.

Sound too utopian. The Moms in my group do it. Of course it took time and a lot of personal responsibility.

🌱 They learned to spot their inner nag and all the critical beliefs she had about what to do and how to do it.

🌱 They learned to allow those thoughts to pass through their minds without being upset by them.

That’s a powerfully, freeing ability to have, wouldn’t you say?

It’s about more than the right mindset or best strategies.

It requires the fundamental understanding that the work that is “you” never ends.

You’re a perpetual work in progress and the only finish line is a deadline (pun intended).

When you understand that truth, you can have infinite patience with yourself.

You can’t win or lose in the comparison game when the rules state you can not go faster than the speed of life.

That means, this moment, is your sandbox. You can build with the sand or be buried in it.

Or you can simply play. Feel it running through your fingers or between your toes.

It’s neat how you can enjoy something without having to control it.

Apply to join my Inner Circle and we’ll show you how to find your peace of mind… https://brianraymondking.com/programs/

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