Worry is a thief of joy

Do you know that worry can give you the feeling you have a lot of responsibility, when you actually don’t.

You fret, fuss and focus on a host of things out of your control. You don’t organize or prioritize them so they end up feeling like they’re happening all at once.

You masochistically pride yourself on being able to keep everything in your head, so you rarely, if ever, write things down.

This is at the expense of focus, efficiency and the experience of joy in what you’re doing.

You only have enough brainpower to focus on the task of it instead of the experience of it.

All because you refuse to write down everything else in your head so you don’t also have to remember it.

Why do you do this?

In part, because at some point you decided everything that goes wrong is your fault but everything that goes right is due to luck.

Do you really believe you were put on this Earth to burn bridges instead of building them.

You won’t suddenly feel good enough by declaring yourself General Manager of the Universe.

If it was your responsibility it would be in your control.

Your life is happening while your mind is everywhere but here.

Let go of the business that isn’t yours, so what remains is yours to enjoy completely.

Let’s talk about how I can help you achieve this…

Can you be a little mentally ill?

Listen to this post … Think of it this way.Say you gently poke your skin with a needle. You feel a slight pain. One that isn’t going to let up as long as the needle is there. But you could keep going if you had to. Though it would be hard.The needle is mental illness.Now

Read More »

There’s no such thing as a stupid question

Listen to this post … There is no such thing as a stupid question when you live with neurodiversity. I read an email from my son’s school this morning about registering him for classes for the next term. It listed the instructions on how to do it, but guess what happened? I began reading it

Read More »

You can be sick and happy

Listen to this post … I work with many chronically ill teens.I make clear to them they can feel sick and happy.I have yet to experience anything that keeps you aware of the interplay of life’s opposites like chronic illness does.Working to find that sweet spot between pain and comfort, exhausted and rested.It’s often hard

Read More »

Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

Read More »

When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

Read More »

Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

Read More »
%d bloggers like this: