You don’t have to be a perfect mom to be a good one

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Comparison is a real confidence killer, right Mom?
 
You’re often afraid to discuss the struggles you’re having as a mother because other Moms “seem” to have it together.
 
Or they pretend to and give you advice they need to follow as well.
 
That’s a common rule for advice giving. We give the advice that either worked for us or advice we need to hear too. The advice I give the most is valuable for me as well.
 
Here are a few things it’s important for you to understand about your own worth:
 
🌱 You’re good enough when you’re an imperfect parent. You must first not know before you can learn.
 
🌱 Parenting is on the job training. It requires humility, patience with yourself, the willingness to ask for help, and extending yourself grace and praise during the quiet times and through the difficult moments.
 
🌱 You’re allowed to learn everything for the first time, regardless of whether others (you compare yourself to) already know it.
 
I remember posting an AHA about ADHD a few years ago and one of my followers wrote, “I’m surprised you didn’t know that already, blah, blah, how could you not know that, blah, blah.”
 
I responded, “Each of us has a first time for everything. This is mine, please let me have it.” She didn’t reply.
 
🌱 Parenting changes you, and it should. Parenting is a sacred opportunity to connect with your sense of wonder and discovery. To become a passionately curious explorer of life.
 
Learn to experience everything for the first time. Be an explorer instead of an expert.
 
You’ll experience far more self criticism when you “should’ve known” when the truth is, you don’t always know the right thing to do.
 
Whatever decision you make will teach you something valuable.
 
If you’re going to compare anything. Compare the results you want with the results you created. Reflect, Refine and Reengage.
 
You are always in process and that’s okay. It’s the process that refines you, not the goal.
 
👉 How would you feel about yourself if you were able to do this?
👉 How would your life be different?
👉 Do you want me to teach you how its done and support you every step of the way until you can do it for yourself?

How do you feel about change?

Listen to this post … One assumption many parents and professionals make is that people with Neurodiversity aren’t motivated to improve their lives. It isn’t that they don’t want to change, they may not believe they’re able to change. They often have difficulty finishing what they start or getting started at all. Struggle with creating

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Thoughts on setting boundaries and sticking to them

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Getting things done when you don’t know how long it’ll take

Listen to this post … One of the challenges with time blindness is when you have a long to do list. It can be anxiety inducing because estimating how long it’ll take you is a shot in the dark. I don’t feel time passing unless I have a clock or clouds to watch, something that tells

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Nipping IMPULSIVITY in the bud!

Listen to this post … Not thinking before blurting out an embarrassing comment. Doing things that upset others as a matter of habit, only to regret them later. The seeming inability to learn from any of this is a hallmark of ADHD. I used to get in so much trouble because of this. The reason for impulsivity

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When a neurodivergent person seems controlling, they may just feel unsafe

Listen to this post … Saying someone has, “control issues” is often a misnomer. For neurodivergent folks its often an issue with anxiety. Feeling confused in a fast, noisy world demands you find something you can hold onto. Something to help you feel safe. It can be a collection, a routine, a mantra, a person whose word you

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Movement can be help you work through your emotions

Listen to this post … One of the best reasons to include movement breaks into your schedule is because movement plays an important role in relieving stress. Feeling trapped is a hallmark of a traumatic experience or an anxiety attack. Feeling like you can’t fight or flee. An example might be a child who is having severe

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