The secret to happiness isn’t found on a pedestal of authority

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The secret to happiness isn’t found on a pedestal of authority

It’s so important to remind people that the key to happiness isn’t increased wealth or status.

Celebrities like Jim Carrey, Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato, Glennon Doyle, one of my favorites Jamilla Jamil openly discuss their challenges with mental health.

They burst the bubble of celebrity and the pedestal many people put it on.

The idea that the perfect body, the best car, the biggest house, whatever it is for you, will give you permission to feel good enough once you’ve achieved it simply isn’t the case.

It’s all bullshit, you’re good enough right now. Your resistance to that idea is what causes you so much suffering.

When you struggle with ADHD/ASD, chronic pain, etc., too much of your identity can be wrapped up in that struggle. How hard you have it because of your diagnosis.

You get more negative messages hurled your way when you don’t measure up to a make believe ideal some marketer or other self righteous armchair quarterback pulled out of their ass.

I’m here to tell you you’re already good enough regardless of the bombardment of messages you receive daily telling you you’re doing it wrong if you aren’t buying their thing – FUCK EM’!

I hope I’m clear in that I don’t believe everyone needs to do the deep dive inward that I’m doing. I know I’ve found healing in doing so. But this process is the hardest work I’ve ever done. Hard but doable.

I can’t promise anything regarding what lies on the other side of accepting the reality of your hurt, allowing yourself to feel and move beyond it.

I will promise that if you choose this path, I’ll be right there with you.

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