Working through the goo really sucks

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One of the hardest and most heartbreaking experiences in life is when you realize you can no longer live up to the pressure of being who everyone thinks you are.

You try to be who they want you to be or who you think they want you to be.

When the paradigm of who you thought you were collapses it can be soul crushing.

There are countless stories of people who seemed to have it all only to kill themselves. I suspect many of them were going through this and feared speaking up because a wave of disappointment from those close to them could follow.

I feel like I’m going through this now.

I’m choosing to stay engaged even though it’s terrifying.

Many of you have messaged me with sagely insight and kindness for which I’m profoundly grateful.

It got me thinking about the opportunity in this. I thought of the butterfly.

A caterpillar turns into a goo inside the cocoon as part of its transformation into a butterfly.

The caterpillar is destroyed before it can become a butterfly.

I feel like the goo right now. Knowing I may be able to emerge a butterfly is encouraging.

The goo phase sure does suck though.

How do you feel about change?

Listen to this post … One assumption many parents and professionals make is that people with Neurodiversity aren’t motivated to improve their lives. It isn’t that they don’t want to change, they may not believe they’re able to change. They often have difficulty finishing what they start or getting started at all. Struggle with creating

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Thoughts on setting boundaries and sticking to them

When learning to set boundaries it can feel uncomfortable to do. Like breaking in a pair of new shoes. You have to walk around in them for a while before they feel natural.You may even feel like you’re being mean to others you’re setting boundaries with. Especially because many of them will say so.It’s important

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Getting things done when you don’t know how long it’ll take

Listen to this post … One of the challenges with time blindness is when you have a long to do list. It can be anxiety inducing because estimating how long it’ll take you is a shot in the dark. I don’t feel time passing unless I have a clock or clouds to watch, something that tells

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Nipping IMPULSIVITY in the bud!

Listen to this post … Not thinking before blurting out an embarrassing comment. Doing things that upset others as a matter of habit, only to regret them later. The seeming inability to learn from any of this is a hallmark of ADHD. I used to get in so much trouble because of this. The reason for impulsivity

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When a neurodivergent person seems controlling, they may just feel unsafe

Listen to this post … Saying someone has, “control issues” is often a misnomer. For neurodivergent folks its often an issue with anxiety. Feeling confused in a fast, noisy world demands you find something you can hold onto. Something to help you feel safe. It can be a collection, a routine, a mantra, a person whose word you

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Movement can be help you work through your emotions

Listen to this post … One of the best reasons to include movement breaks into your schedule is because movement plays an important role in relieving stress. Feeling trapped is a hallmark of a traumatic experience or an anxiety attack. Feeling like you can’t fight or flee. An example might be a child who is having severe

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