It’s so hard some times, isn’t it.

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As I was making my morning coffee (as I always do), something occurred to me.

People with ADHD often trap themselves in a story about how hard it is to have ADHD or MS or bipolar or whatever it is.

The issue lies in becoming too attached to the story of “HARD.”

How hard it is can become a cloak of sorts, where you are able to protect yourself from opportunities to take risk, to believe in yourself, to have hope that it can be better than it was yesterday.

“But it’s still so hard.” “You just don’t get how hard it is.”

I used to do this a lot with the MS. Because it’s hard to walk. Sometimes it’s hard to get upstairs. So I would think of reasons not to do things because of how hard it is.

What I realized was I really wasn’t looking for many solutions to get around the hard to make it less hard. The same is true for ADHD.

Ever hear yourself talking like this?

Whether you have dyslexia or ADHD (I have both), workarounds exist. I’ve found technological workarounds. I have developed social strategies so that other people can be invited to support me (this is an art I’m happy to teach you).

So instead of saying, “Oh, I’m never going to socialize, I don’t socialize, because it’s too hard.” I ask myself, “What can I do?” “What can I learn?” “What do I need to know to be successful anyway?” Even though it’s hard.

I implore you to consider whether this applies to your own thinking. Are you using too hard as a way to paralyze yourself?

I used to do it. Sometimes I still do it. The first step to changing it is catching yourself when you do it.

Then declare is as bullshit. It’s bullshit to believe it will always be hard and there are no solutions to make it easier.

In reality there are plenty, I’ve learned them. I teach them, they’re out there.

Please give yourself that chance, things can be easier than they’ve been.

So go easier on yourself. Want my help with this, send me a message.

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