Every criticism stings a little more than the previous one, doesn’t it?
When you grow up with ADHD (usually undiagnosed), you’re corrected much more often than your siblings and your peers.
The adults often don’t realize this because their corrections happen in the moment.
Until they realize they’ve actually told you multiple times and are now frustrated because, “Why do I have to keep telling you over and over and over?”
The cumulative affect of this are feelings of shame, worthlessness, self-doubt etc. I know you understand this first hand.
You may even realize you’re worth more and that the criticisms were levied by people who struggled with their own imperfections.
But how do you make a shift from such an embedded way of thinking and feeling about yourself? To a perspective that allows you to consider being happier and more loving to yourself.
I had this very conversation with a client recently and the shift began with this statement, “Maybe that’s not the way it was meant, but it was the way I took it.”
This is what I refer to as a MotherShift ™, the mother of paradigm shifts because it is so fundamental, simple and powerful.
It acknowledges that what you have been thinking about as “your life” may just be “your story.” There’s what happened and there’s what you tell yourself about what happened.
When you realize you’re telling yourself a story a seed of hope is planted within your story of criticism and suffering. A seed that can be nurtured into a story that makes room for loving yourself, feeling more confident and feeling comfortable in your own skin.
Take ownership of the powerful storyteller you are and feel the darkness make way for the light. Let’s do this together.