I’m going to STOP Eating!

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When you have ADHD, keeping your emotions from swinging like a pendulum is difficult.

So you find external ways to help keep them in check.

You drink wine, use pills, watch TV, eat comforting foods.

Others do healthier things such as exercise, reading, enjoying nature.

But it’s the easy ways many of us tend to go to first.

In my case, I’ve used food and the occasional beer to moderate feelings I haven’t dealt with for decades.

I’m coming up on a major anniversary tomorrow and have just realized how much my eating is related to my desire to keep old emotions buried.

When I’m anxious I often suggest we go out to eat at a place where I can order a tall beer to calm my nerves.

I have sought greasy, salty or sugary snacks for that feeling of euphoria that distracts me from feelings of insecurity or sadness.

What do I have to show for it, 100 extra pounds of weight?

Weight that has done nothing to help me heal the wounds that if left unchecked, will continue sabotaging my growth and preventing me from playing all out on the stage of life.

So I commit to STOP eating as a means to manage my emotions.

I’m going to feel them and heal them so my painful past doesn’t poison a present or future with more pain than joy.

I’m going to challenge the old beliefs that keep these feelings alive and replace them with more empowering ones.

What are YOU going to do?

What do you use to resist dealing with the pain that poisons your present?

 

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