The difference between you and me isn’t always choice

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Yes we all have the same 24 hours.

This doesn’t mean what I make happen during that time and what Tony Robbins can make happen should be compared.

Besides not having access to his resources, I don’t have the same gifts or ambitions.

In 243 years the USA has had 45 Presidents. Not everyone gets a shot at that job.

There’s a lot of pressure to hustle, ship it, endlessly pursue greater levels of excellence. I’m actually a fan of the last one.

But the more I get to know the variety of people in this world the more I meet people who are cool playing tambourine instead of being the lead singer. Know what I mean?

I was listening to an interview with Casey Affleck (famous actor) and the interviewer was piling on the praise, all of which Casey shot down.

He went on to explain he thought all award shows are bogus and here’s why.

He said (paraphrasing), an actor isn’t by themselves on a movie set. There’s a director and the other actors who create a space that bring things out in you.

Outside of that context the talent may not be accessible. It’s a fascinating perspective.

Some may be genuinely content with a more simple role in the community which is a beautiful and essential contribution.

Still there are those who must endure extra layers of resistance due to race, sex, sexual preference, gender identity, learning or physical disabilities, etc.

When the gatekeepers to opportunities and resources actively discriminate (consciously or otherwise), the ones needing them most often don’t get them.

It’s easy for some to look down on others and believe what differentiates them is as simple as choices.

I call BS, it’s a matter of “access” to the resources, opportunities and people you need to help bring out the best in you.

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