Fear of the unknown keeps life from being better

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A subject that keeps showing up in conversations with clients and colleagues alike, is fear.

More specifically the fear that seems to reside outside your awareness.

For example, you may be very aware you’re afraid of spiders but oblivious to your fear of success.

How does a fear of success show up then? By not following up on opportunities or outright saying NO to opportunities you know are good because something didn’t feel right.

Yeah, that feeling is cognitive dissonance.

Know what that force field of plasma surrounding your comfort zone is made of – fear.

Fear keeps the familiar inside the perimeter and the risk of progress on the outside.

One of the most important characteristics of anyone who values life long growth and learning is a seemingly insatiable curiosity.

Curiosity trumps fear because curiosity wants to and is committed to exploring the unknown.

Fear stops in its tracks for the simple reason that it stands before the unknown.

Fear is the mother of so many thoughts and feelings that sap your energy and blunt your ability to see what’s truly possible for you.

Fortunately, I work with people committed to taking fear head on.

We help each other push through it and permit ourselves to succeed.

It isn’t enough to want it, you must permit yourself to rise to it and to let it in.

How is fear holding you back?

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