Bless and Release

 
“Bless and Release,” a phrase I learned from my client Becky Jane Stephenson.
 
It’s a mantra to help you achieve a level of forgiveness toward those who were merchants of hurt in your life.
 
I often swap childhood stories of being bullied with other adults who grew up during a time before ADHD even had a label let alone school supports.
 
Some still carry that pain. It can weight you down in ways you can’t imagine when you carry that “not good enough” feeling into adulthood.
 
You blind yourself to opportunities for new, valuable relationships, job opportunities and more, simply because you deem yourself unworthy.
 
“Bless and Release,” has the power of time travel.
 
Imagine yourself, as an adult, looking upon the person who bullied you.
 
Tell them the story of their behavior or words and the impact it’s had on you. The next line is key.
 
Tell them, “I accept the blessing of the lesson you gave me and I release the pain to make room for gratitude.”
 
How do you imagine your life would change if you did this for everyone you ever felt hurt by?

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