A diagnosis of ADHD doesn’t give you license to be stuck

A diagnosis is NOT a license to remain stuck in life. Especially in the area of mental health.

Many look to the deficit laden criteria of their diagnosis (e.g. ADHD) and use it as evidence they CAN’T do something.

This is a very disempowered way of viewing the diagnosis.

A more empowered way to see it is as a map of your skill gaps. Gaps that can be reduced in size with the right strategies.

A diagnosis shows you where your unique struggles are and where you need to focus your personal growth efforts.

You CAN increase your competence in areas where you now struggle. It may be harder than for most but so what?

Do the work because that process, that journey will provide opportunities beyond improving your abilities in say, focus, impulse control or organization.

You can also increase your capacity for self-compassion, patience, resilience and more.

You don’t get big biceps in a day, nor do you build the emotional muscle of resilience without walking the path to get you there.

Want to learn how to do this?

Can you be a little mentally ill?

Listen to this post … Think of it this way.Say you gently poke your skin with a needle. You feel a slight pain. One that isn’t going to let up as long as the needle is there. But you could keep going if you had to. Though it would be hard.The needle is mental illness.Now

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There’s no such thing as a stupid question

Listen to this post … There is no such thing as a stupid question when you live with neurodiversity. I read an email from my son’s school this morning about registering him for classes for the next term. It listed the instructions on how to do it, but guess what happened? I began reading it

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You can be sick and happy

Listen to this post … I work with many chronically ill teens.I make clear to them they can feel sick and happy.I have yet to experience anything that keeps you aware of the interplay of life’s opposites like chronic illness does.Working to find that sweet spot between pain and comfort, exhausted and rested.It’s often hard

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Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

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When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

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Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

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