Look in the mirror, THAT’S your competition

Your biggest advantage in this world is between your ears.

I was asked by someone yesterday how to overcome a fear of crashing while traveling by air.  

I shared that I used to have the same fear. Until I implemented a few steps.

I learned to mindfully manage my breath so it remained deep and calm.

I’d press my feet against the floor of the airplane and pretend I was on the ground. 

I’d also use that time to read, write or get lost in music.   

Here’s the reality, the fear of crashing isn’t the issue. Your insistence on dwelling upon it is what causes the problem.  

At any moment you have the power to change your focus. 

Each day your mind reminds you of your fears. Each day you have the choice to give into them or take action regardless. 

I was watching a movie with my boys last night and one character kept repeating, “The world is a dangerous place.” I agree that in this world there are places that can be considered more dangerous than others (Wal Mart on a Sunday for example). 

Such all or nothing beliefs (the world) robs you of a host of solutions. You need to focus and be more specific. 

You choose the experience you’re going to have in this world. I’m not suggesting investing in a pair of rose color glasses.

I’m reminding you that even when problems or reasons “why not to act” are obvious to you. Insist upon examining the other side of that coin as a matter of habit.

Allow yourself space to become as excited about the solution as you did to become frightened by the problem.

Once the solution excites you more, the problem becomes a door to a solution. 

In time you’ll no longer be fighting against yourself (as much). Instead, you’ll find yourself taking more action and creating more of what you want in life.

I have the joy of teaching people how to do this every day. 

That’s all for now.  

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