How do you pronounce HAPPINESS?

“In order to love who you are, you can not hate the experiences that shaped you.” – Andrea Dykstra
 
A good friend shared the following with me recently, “My daughter had trouble pronouncing happiness when she was little. She said happi(m)ess. Life gets messy. I choose to find the happy in the mess.”
 
From the mouth of babes huh?
 
Much of happiness is found this way. From the ability to find the silver lining, the lesson, the opportunity.
 
Happiness isn’t found in a state of zero resistance, where everything is easy and pleasurable. That my friend is comfort NOT happiness.
 
You want happy? Then be prepared to work for it. You must also be prepared to lose it. Then work some more and experience it again.
 
Sure, you can decide to be happy this very moment. Should life distract you, then you must find your way back. Back and forth, ebb and flow, they work together.
 
The happy and the mess. ​​​​
 
Without the dark, you wouldn’t appreciate the light.

Thank goodness for second chances

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When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

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Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

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Where do we go from here…

Listen to this post … I grew up being bullied by classmates, teachers, and even members of my own family.I was beat up at various times from the age of 5 through middle school. I finally fought back, decisively, and no one touched me again after that.To some, I should’ve acted sooner. In my mind,

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When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

Listen to this post … You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year. Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says. Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity

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Robbing stigma of its oxygen

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