Who do you think you are? – Morning T.E.A. with Brian

Good morning my friends Brian King here . . . It’s Saturday and I’ve been up since a little before 6am, don’t ask me what the hell that’s about, it was not by design.

I started diving into a business book I called DOTCOM Secrets by Russell Brunson. Even if you don’t have a business it has some amazing ideas about how to put yourself out there more authentically.

I tend to want to stay away from the idea that there are kinds of people, there are categories of people. You have your DISC assessments with the LBKJ whatever the different letters are, or the archetypes that describe the different kinds of people there are.

I’m a big fan of variety, of individuality and your unique variation on the human continuum. Even though we know we’re influenced by others, our cultures so on and so forth.

I was reading some archetypes that Russell laid out in this book about what makes, what he calls an attractive character, somebody that attracts other people to them.

I was surprised by just how fitting one of the archetypes was for me now. Of course no one archetype explains the entirety of you but what it can do is give you some insight into who you’ve become settled into.

It doesn’t mean that this is who you are, this is a fixed state you’re never gonna vary from for the rest of your life. If anything it’s a sense of who you are now.

There’s a lot of pressure when you put yourself out there on social media. Like you need to know everything, have to have all the answers and you have to be flawless. I talked about this a little bit in yesterday’s video.

People end up putting up this façade’s that’s just a big fraud because and what Russell does in outlining some of his archetypes is that it’s okay to show your imperfections. It’s okay to be human and I think that’s one of the reasons I was really drawn to this.

Of the four archetypes that he described, I identified most with the adventurer or the crusader and what that essentially comes down to is that I’m on this journey. I am always experimenting with life and resilience in different ideas and different mindsets.

I don’t show up and say, “I have the answers,” “I know the truth.” I’m not the guru or the expert therefore you must follow me.

I’m trying to figure this out, I’ve got some answers, I got some solutions that work for me. They may work for you, give it a shot, try it on.

Don’t like it, no worries, I’m not that attached to it either because I’m looking for the next thing that may work even better.

I want to encourage you to start thinking about who you have decided you are. Who you think you need to be to belong to this group, to this community. Ask yourself what does that mean for you in terms of how you show up. Are you expecting yourself to be perfect because you put yourself in those categories?

I was talking to a new friend recently about the religious traditions we were raised in. How we can be sent the message that we are expected to be flawless, that we are expected to feel poorly about ourselves when less-than-perfect. Even if that’s not the intended message it’s often the message received.

Think about the categories you put yourself in.

What options does it allow you?

What freedoms does it provide?

How does it hold you back?

Question whether that’s a path you want to continue along.

I love to hear your thoughts on this as well, please share.

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