Why people should do business with YOU!

I shared a story with one of my mastermind groups, about a woman that so set herself apart when interacting with customers is resulted in a boost in sales that caught the attention of the CEO.

Watch to learn what she did and how you can model it to improve your own results.

Don’t be fooled by what you think you know

“You can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that got you into it.” 
​- Albert Einstein

 

In business as in life, you MUST learn from those who have gone before you and those who are already experiencing the results you want.

There continues to be a myth perpetuated in this world that there’s such a thing as “self-made.” There’s no such thing. 

You are raised in a context of family, community, country and culture. Like a fish in water you’re largely unaware of just how much you’re influenced by the people and events around you. 

Just this past Halloween a muslim couple was walking around taking pictures of the children in costume. When they arrived at our door my wife remarked about how cute the costumes were. 

The Muslim woman replied, “This is amazing to watch, we’ve never seen Halloween before.” 

Think back to an epiphany you had that changed your way of thinking. What was its source? Was it upon hearing a quote, reading a passage from a book? Perhaps it came some time later after your subconscious had time to process it. ​​​​​​ ​​​​
 
You don’t already have what you need between your ears to get where you want to be, if you did you’d be there already. It’s an entrepreneurial must to keep learning. ​​

The point is clear, trying to go it alone is inviting unneeded frustration and doubles the time it’ll take you to get from here to where you want to be. ​​

Have some humility and ask for guidance instead of believing there’s something righteous about success in isolation.

It takes courage to be responsible

One of the most courageous acts is to take 100% responsibility for your life. It’s the difference between being part of the problem or the solution.

Today’s video explores the power in the opportunities you have daily to be the change you wish to see in the world. 

Don’t let a temporary feeling define your day

Ever say to yourself, “I feel tired today” or “I’m having a hard time focusing today.” In this video, I explain why those statements cause you more difficulty than you realize. 

More importantly, I share a single shift in your thinking that can open the door to an entirely different experience.

How Michaelangelo helped me get over a recent loss

Notes from this video:

  • When has losing something in your life made things better for you?
  • How would you respond to no longer being able to drive?
  • Michelangelo’s sculpting approach says a lot about how to discover your potential.
  • Discovering how interdependence is a compliment to independence

Sick Biz Buzz 020: Brian King Reigns Over Adversity

In this episode, we are sitting down with Brian King. 

Brian King is discussing how he transformed his challenges into a full-time entrepreneurship healing parents and kids. 

Having one of those days

Yesterday was one of those days when things just weren’t working. Watch to learn what I did to turn things around.

Video Notes:

  • I spent time feeling sorry for myself. My self-talk included, “I can’t do anything right today.” 

  • I’d planned to go swimming but began sabotaging myself, “No, I’ll do it a different day.” Until I checked my schedule and realized I had appointments that conflicted with the other open swim times.

  • I made the decision to go swimming even though I felt lousy.

  • While moving through the water I found myself in a more focused, relaxed state.

  • I felt my physical limitations fade away in the water.

  • Swimming became as much a mindset boost as a physical one.

  • Where is your place of calm and focus? Is it walking in nature, reading, participating in a hobby. For me, lately, it’s being in the water.

  • You need an activity that allows you to feel completely connected with yourself. It’s a powerful form of mind, body and spirit self-care.

  • Lastly I share a conversation with a child that occurred as I was getting ready to leave.

How do you do with other points of view?

Raising teenagers is hard enough. I have the privilege of raising boys on the autism spectrum. Even if this doesn’t apply to you stay with me. 

It’s difficult for my boys to consider ideas that aren’t their own. I hear ya, I too know many adults with this challenge who AREN’T on the autism spectrum.

Being stuck in your own head is like living life with a mental straightjacket. You want to break free but the more you struggle the tighter the jacket gets.

What’s the solution? Realize there is no jacket, other than the one you create. 

Case in point. My 16-year-old overdoes it with the video games (DUH! What teenager doesn’t?)  So I decided to establish a criterion requiring him to balance his video game play with personal development. 

I started him with one of my favorites, Mindset by Carol Dweck. 

He shared the revelation he read that it’s possible to see experiences as obstacles (fixed) or opportunities (growth). Of course you already know this, as do I. I’ve been explaining this to him and his brothers for years. 

For some reason, it clicked when he began reading this book. 

As much as you may fancy yourself the primary purveyor of wisdom for those you wish to influence. You may consider that desire as a form of limited thinking and a challenge with getting outside a bias toward your own thinking. 

I’m guilty of this on occasion as well. 

If you have a similar lust for learning and seek new ideas through books, podcasts, blog posts etc. It may make sharing your thoughts more effective if you direct your child, friend or colleague to the same source you discovered. 

That third party validation is often more convincing than hearing it from you all the time. But don’t trust me, I’m just the messenger 😉 

Tips for establishing a new habit

Routine is one of the foundations of your daily life. Habits (the things you repeatedly do with little or no variation) can become a mindless way of moving through life. You’re not a robot, are you?

Then a moment of insight leads you to the realization you no longer find value in what you’ve always done. You decide you want a new way to do things with better results. 

What better means is up to you. Once you decide what it is then you must take new action to start a new habit to create change. Waiting, procrastinating only keeps things the same.

Here are some steps to give you a framework for getting things moving.  

1. DECIDE you must start the new behavior. 
2. SCHEDULE it so nothing else can get in the way  
3. You don’t need to FEEL like doing it every day in order to do it. 
4. RECORD your progress to remind you you’re moving forward.  
5. ACKNOWLEDGE your effort as well as your wins. Showing up every day is 90% of the process. 

These steps can make your efforts more deliberate and purposeful. Recording your results is a daily reminder you’re moving forward in life. 

A mind that makes progress is aware of the change it can create in the world.