April 16, 2014

About Brian R. King, LCSW

Brian R. King, LCSW (ADHD & ASD Life Coach) is a #1 Best Selling Author, 25-year cancer survivor, adult with Dyslexia, ADHD, and Asperger’s. He’s also the father of three sons on the autism spectrum. He is known worldwide for his books and highly engaging presentations that teach the power of connection and collaboration. His strategies empower others to overcome their differences so they can build powerful and lasting partnerships. His motto is: We’re all in this together.

Just try harder – huh?

It seems each day I encounter another teacher who believes their student with ADHD can overcome attention issues through motivation alone. Even more frustrating is when they suggest it would be unfair to offer the student accommodations.   If it’s that simple I’d like to ask students to relinquish their eye glasses and try harder [...]

Teaching responsibility to your child on the autism spectrum

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As an adult with Asperger’s and ADHD I have discovered two criteria that allow me to determine when my nervous system is organized and thus more capable of making things happen. Those criteria are the experience of calm and focus. When I’m becoming anxious, I start stimming more and my thinking becomes erratic and fuzzy. [...]

How to find your strengths when you aren’t sure what they are

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  Many of us with ADHD or autism are so used to being criticized and so used to having difficulty that it’s much easier to think that we have more weaknesses than we will ever have strengths. It doesn’t help that those who are looking to support us also have a tendency to emphasize our [...]

Is he being an Aspie or being an ASS?

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  A question that comes up repeatedly from parents and spouses of spectrumites is “Is it the Asperger’s or is he just being difficult?” Some say (and I can relate) “Sometimes he can be a real ass.” There have been plenty of times when I’ve been an ASS and needed to be called on it [...]

Is your memory slippery instead of sticky?

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  I refer to my working memory as Teflon in that nothing sticks to it. When it does, however, it’s often just long enough to write it down so I stand a chance of remembering. FYI, an example of a working memory problem is forgetting a set of directions seconds after being given them – [...]

Noisy room noisy mind

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A common complaint I hear from teachers about their students with either ADHD or autism is that they seem to make no effort or delay making an effort to get ready for class. They’ll state that the student (who we’ll call Andy) will simply sit there and do nothing while the other students are getting [...]

Old school teaching versus the real world

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Giving a child a copy of notes for each class does NOT remove accountability from the student nor does it give the student permission to tune out. What it DOES do is prevent a child’s brain from becoming worn out as a result of having to rapidly and repeatedly transition between whiteboard and notebook, often [...]

Random acts of purpose

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Much of what is portrayed for us either through reality programming or fictional depictions of life celebrates being the best, being the winner as the most meaningful outcome. I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t strive to excel because continuing to refine ourselves improves our lives and the lives of those around us. Unfortunately, it leaves many, especially [...]

Social Context and Social Success

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It’s a common belief that people on the autism spectrum get along better with people that are older or younger and tend to avoid people their own age. I suspect a primary reason for this is that their exposure to people their own age tends to occur in groups: classrooms, cafeterias, cub or girl scouts [...]

Put the kibosh on racing thoughts

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  One of the scourges of ADHD is the intrusion of negative thoughts when you’re trying to settle down for a good night’s sleep. It only takes one thought to begin the process of going from zero to catastrophe in about three seconds.  I’ve experienced this far too often and whipped myself into either a panic [...]