When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

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You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year.
 
Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says.
 
Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity affects your life.
 
You may see failures as evidence of what you can’t do instead of as evidence of simply what doesn’t work.
 
When you think about how you’re living now, you may have a feeling that things aren’t working.
 
Though you struggle to determine what, specifically isn’t working. You know once you determine that, you decide what you’d like instead. Then, of course, you can get busy creating it.
 
A way to help figure out what isn’t working, is to ask yourself this.
 

If I want to feel better than I do now, is there anything I need to:

👉 Keep doing?
👉 Stop doing? or
👉 Start doing?

Make sure one of the things you stop doing is basing your feelings of success on other people’s happiness.

This doesn’t mean ignore the impact of your actions on others. It means that your internal celebration of a job well done.

The gratitude you feel toward yourself for showing up, for you – is enough.

Comparison, impatience and competition are habits encouraged by those who wish to exploit your insecurities.

You don’t have to drink from those wells when there’s a fountain inside you.

The fountain is the fluid experience you’re having this moment. It tells you everything about where you’re at, but not where you’ll end up.

What is undeniable, is that you must take the first step in order to get started.

Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

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Where do we go from here…

Listen to this post … I grew up being bullied by classmates, teachers, and even members of my own family.I was beat up at various times from the age of 5 through middle school. I finally fought back, decisively, and no one touched me again after that.To some, I should’ve acted sooner. In my mind,

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When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

Listen to this post … You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year. Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says. Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity

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Robbing stigma of its oxygen

“Telling your story of life with neurodiversity educates and robs stigma of its oxygen.” I said something to that effect during a discussion about neurodiversity in the workplace this morning. The question was raised about how to educate employers about differences. I emphasized that it needs to start outside the companies, in our communities and

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You have to face a fear to get past it

Listen to this post … I’ve been feeling crippling anxiety over the past few weeks and I couldn’t quite get to the bottom of it. It was such a departure from my typical silver lining, be here now self. Last night I decided to allow myself to see what I was hiding from. I told the anxiety

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Follow your own stream when mainstream doesn’t fit

Listen to this post … As a neurodiverse person, your very existence is a challenge to the status quo. Many will be frightened by your differences, threatened by any disruption to their own comfort. Some will try to help you be normal, to fit in. To please others so you’re more likely to be accepted. Then there are

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