When your child tells you, “NO!”

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When your child tells you, “NO!”
Give em a little credit.
 
It’s their first foray into setting boundaries.
 
I meet too many adults who are overwhelmed because they learned at a young age that they had no right to say, “NO!”
 
It was considered, talking back, disrespectful, selfish, etc.
 
The result is you take on too much, try to please everyone, have horrible self-care and have difficulty meeting your own needs.
 
You were instructed to do what you were told or to play nice.
 
“NO,” “STOP,” “ENOUGH,” are essential for regulating the quantity and intensity of the energy you allow into your lives.
 
As someone living with ADHD or ASD (Autism Spectrum Differences), you need to be able to ask for clarification, feedback, accomodations and set boundaries. You need to be able to do this with confidence. (I can help you with this).
 
As parents we don’t have license to steamroll over our children “because I said so.” They can’t learn self-discipline and self-control if they aren’t allowed to say “WHEN!”
 
Put your ego in check and see what’s behind the, “NO.”
 
If your child’s, “NO” is never respected, they’ll stop saying it and it sets them up to be mistreated in relationships.
 
The healthiest relationships have articulated and respected boundaries. Help your child speak up for themselves. Including with you.

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