Want to get to know yourself?
Spend time alone with your thoughts without distraction.
For people living with ADHD or ASD this is particularly difficult.
What you’ll discover first is a lot of noise running through your head. If your thoughts are anxious or self critical please know you’re dealing with the real time, fear based, feedback of the primitive mind whose primary objective is to keep you alive.
That’s why it’s primarily negative, to keep you alert for possible danger. It isn’t interested in telling you the truth, it’s concerned about what if’s and avoiding them.
When you work from that part of your brain your thinking like a lizard not a leader.
It’s important to balance courage and caution.
Ever watch documentaries about the ocean? The surface is where things are tumultuous, but go deeper and the waters are more still.
The mind works in a similar way. Which is why you need to go below the surface to get to know yourself.
Most people won’t do this. They look at the surface noise and believe they have all the info they need. That’s like slurping up the foam but skipping the beer.
You need to go deeper to find you.
What you find beneath the noise and the things you’ve been conditioned to care about or fear, are things that truly light up your soul.
The things that make you happy whether or not anyone else approves.
The things that give you a sense of purpose and direction in life.
I wouldn’t dare try and tell you in a post what to do to go deeper because this process is a vulnerable one and it helps to do it with guidance. Just knowing someone is there to reach out to to process with when things come up in solitude is HUGE!
Just know you are not alone in your desire to hide from thoughts that take the wind from your sails. But also know the ocean of your mind is much deeper and there are those of us who can help you navigate it more safely so you can experience who you are with much more love, happiness and peace.