How does someone who feels unlovable start to learn to love themselves?

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That question was posed during a group call for my community this morning.
 
My answer, “When you’re thirsty, drink. When you’re hungry, take a bite of something. Recognize those actions as acts of self-love. They’re acknowledgments you’re worth fighting for.”
 
When life feels like you’re walking against the wind much of the time, it’s in the “moments” when you’re reminded that you’re here, now, having an experience of connection with YOU.
 
The past is what keeps you from feeling lovable. So we must look to the present for a way forward.
 
Your feelings, your sensations as you experience what’s happening inside and around you, right now. Living with ADHD or ASD is a tremendous balancing act of perpetual self-regulation.
 
You and I both know how inconsistent our productivity can be.
 
But the more tuned in you are to your own inner world, the better your self-care, the more confidently you can walk through this life.
 
It’s important for you to learn to measure your self worth against nothing. You have worth and dignity as part of your essential being. Just as water has 2Hs and an O.
 
You will always be worthy of love.
 
Until you feel it too, it’ll be difficult for you to participate.
 
When you ARE ready, I have a space for you.

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