Your emotions don’t have to control you

Several times today my patience was REALLY tested.

They changed the doctor I was supposed to see last minute.

The visit took two hours.

Ordered a lot of blood work. Had to wait an hour as the lab looked for a special vial for one of the tests.

It was now 4pm and I hadn’t eaten since breakfast.

I could’ve been snotty and entitled. But to what end. I’d make a scene, draw attention and feel special. Others would have a story to tell and my ego would feel a tad more validated.

I did not of that.

Instead I noticed my feelings of frustration.
The tension in my body from the frustration.

My thoughts of how long I’d been sitting in my wheelchair, how long since I’d eaten. None of which these folks having me wait were responsible for.

I reminded myself that although I was uncomfortable, I wasn’t in danger. As soon as my blood was drawn I’d be going home.

I focused on breathing mindfully until it was my turn.

I’m now on the train returning home.

Everyone I dealt with today was kind and patient.

I wanted to make sure I kept my thoughts and breathing the same way so I could return the favor.

Your emotions don’t have to control you.

Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

Read More »

When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

Read More »

Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

Read More »

Where do we go from here…

Listen to this post … I grew up being bullied by classmates, teachers, and even members of my own family.I was beat up at various times from the age of 5 through middle school. I finally fought back, decisively, and no one touched me again after that.To some, I should’ve acted sooner. In my mind,

Read More »

When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

Listen to this post … You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year. Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says. Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity

Read More »

Robbing stigma of its oxygen

“Telling your story of life with neurodiversity educates and robs stigma of its oxygen.” I said something to that effect during a discussion about neurodiversity in the workplace this morning. The question was raised about how to educate employers about differences. I emphasized that it needs to start outside the companies, in our communities and

Read More »
%d bloggers like this: