Honesty is the price you pay for self-compassion

Self-compassion is impossible without the willingness to be completely honest with yourself.

The problem is, you aren’t raised to be honest in a loving way.

You were raised by people who cuss, shout, tell tools they’re stupid and insult themselves for making mistakes.

It’s easy for this way of handling frustration to rub off when you grow up watching it.

Equally, the thrill of successes would soon fade and need to be earned again. But that’s not necessarily easy.

This “I’m proud or I’m punishing myself” cycle is self abuse.

You’re always fighting to measure up and can’t quite keep up the demand for constant performance.

However!

When you learn to approach yourself, your life, in a more loving way, the self abuse stops.

Fascination often replaces frustration.

Remember, honesty has two sides.

🌱 The side that objectively describes the facts regarding your actions and their consequences.

🌱 The other side is the one where you remain worthy of loving no matter what.

This is a side of honesty that often resides in the shadows. Especially in your self talk.

But you know it’s in there, you’ve heard it.

Now we need to make it stronger.

Thank goodness for second chances

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When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

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Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

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Where do we go from here…

Listen to this post … I grew up being bullied by classmates, teachers, and even members of my own family.I was beat up at various times from the age of 5 through middle school. I finally fought back, decisively, and no one touched me again after that.To some, I should’ve acted sooner. In my mind,

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When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

Listen to this post … You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year. Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says. Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity

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Robbing stigma of its oxygen

“Telling your story of life with neurodiversity educates and robs stigma of its oxygen.” I said something to that effect during a discussion about neurodiversity in the workplace this morning. The question was raised about how to educate employers about differences. I emphasized that it needs to start outside the companies, in our communities and

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