Worry is a thief of joy

Do you know that worry can give you the feeling you have a lot of responsibility, when you actually don’t.

You fret, fuss and focus on a host of things out of your control. You don’t organize or prioritize them so they end up feeling like they’re happening all at once.

You masochistically pride yourself on being able to keep everything in your head, so you rarely, if ever, write things down.

This is at the expense of focus, efficiency and the experience of joy in what you’re doing.

You only have enough brainpower to focus on the task of it instead of the experience of it.

All because you refuse to write down everything else in your head so you don’t also have to remember it.

Why do you do this?

In part, because at some point you decided everything that goes wrong is your fault but everything that goes right is due to luck.

Do you really believe you were put on this Earth to burn bridges instead of building them.

You won’t suddenly feel good enough by declaring yourself General Manager of the Universe.

If it was your responsibility it would be in your control.

Your life is happening while your mind is everywhere but here.

Let go of the business that isn’t yours, so what remains is yours to enjoy completely.

Let’s talk about how I can help you achieve this…

Thank goodness for second chances

You’ll have your share of naysayers when you’re neurodivergent. When I first enrolled in the Social Work Program, I had a professor who didn’t like me. She went out of her way to try and get me to drop out of the program. It was the early 1990’s and about a decade before I’d learn

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When Facebook wants you to friend a childhood bully

Facebook just recommend I friend someone who literally used to torment me when we were kids. We have FB friends in common it seems. I felt anger at first as I looked at his face. I tried to see evidence of that kid I resented so much. I couldn’t see him. I didn’t know the

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Self-care is about more than getting enough rest

Listen to this post … Self-care isn’t simply about taking care of the parts of you that take care of everyone else. It’s about so much more.  It’s about taking care of the “self”, who you are, what fills you up and makes you feel most alive.  I focus on the self-care that strengthens the

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Where do we go from here…

Listen to this post … I grew up being bullied by classmates, teachers, and even members of my own family.I was beat up at various times from the age of 5 through middle school. I finally fought back, decisively, and no one touched me again after that.To some, I should’ve acted sooner. In my mind,

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When you don’t know how to figure out what isn’t working…

Listen to this post … You don’t need to have resolutions or goals because there’s a new year. Whether you live your life guided by a desire to be, have or do anything is up to you. Regardless of what the calendar says. Your beliefs about what’s possible for you may be informed by how much neurodiversity

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Robbing stigma of its oxygen

“Telling your story of life with neurodiversity educates and robs stigma of its oxygen.” I said something to that effect during a discussion about neurodiversity in the workplace this morning. The question was raised about how to educate employers about differences. I emphasized that it needs to start outside the companies, in our communities and

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