How much of your self talk comes from your mother

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How much of your self talk comes from your mother?

I received a surprising number of messages yesterday (in response to a post). Each one expressing gratitude for acknowledging how difficult it can be to let go of self sabotaging beliefs.

Second guessing yourself, needing to be perfect were a few examples.

They went on to explain how they were raised by mothers who were critical, correcting and controlling.

Now they’ve spent their adult lives trying to get their mothers out of their heads. Each with varying degrees of success.

These thoughts have helped shape your identity and you’ve come to mistake them for the truth.

It’s like spilling oil on an ocean bird. The oil weighs down its wings no matter how much the bird tries to fly.

You’re the bird.

One by one those thoughts can be cleaned off until you’re finally able to fly.

The negative self talk isn’t in you it is on you and you can learn to cast it off.

What better way to spend your time than learning how to set yourself free?

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