Do you think people who choose to spend time with you are wasting their time

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Do you think people who choose to spend time with you are wasting their time?
 
I used to think that. Then it hit me.
 
What if I instead realized others are perfectly aware of what their options are.
 
They could choose to do anything with their time and still choose to spend some of it with me.
 
It makes more sense to embrace this gesture with gratitude instead of guilt.
 
Somewhere along the way you got the message you were in the way. I know what that feels like.
 
Once you believe that, you begin expecting your presence is a source of disappointment and frustration for others.
 
Sound familiar?
 
Whoever taught you you were in the way had many personal demons they weren’t healing.
 
What you don’t heal you end up using to hurt.
 
Fortunately, this pattern of parenting through the lens of pain can end right now, with you.
 
You have a right to feel confident, to experience the joy of knowing how worthy you truly are.
 
Of feeling like you belong because when you’re with others you know that’s right where you should be.
 

It’s a profound and life changing shift. You don’t have to do it alone.

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