You dont need the approval of people from your past

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How many people are on your friends list because it makes you feel better about yourself by being connected to them?

I unfriended a lot of high school friends I was connected to for all the wrong reasons.

They were people I knew but wasn’t friends with. People I envied because they had friends, appeared happy and successful.

Everything I wished I had during those four years we roamed the same halls.

When they surprisingly wanted to connect on FB, that unresolved need perked up and said, “They finally accept me. I’m more important now (even a little) because this important person sees me.”

Now I understand the truth. I never needed their approval to be good enough, I always was but couldn’t see it.

Turns out, we really didn’t communicate after connecting anyway. The connection served as little more than window dressing for my ego. I don’t need that kind of crap percolating in my brain.

So off they go, along with the need for the approval of people from my past. I don’t need their permission, neither do you.

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