I was wrong about everything

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I was wrong about everything!
 
Here’s a big tip for both becoming happier and making an impact as a business women (Yes I said women, that’s who I work with). But it’s risky. Think you can handle this?
 
Here goes – Question everything!
 
I don’t mean all at once. That could be traumatic. I know cause that was my experience when I went through cancer at 18.
 
I lost friendships I’d had for years, my girlfriend dumped me and I lost my religion (let’s not get into that last part). Not to mention my hair (that part grew on me, no pun intended).
 
When the smoke cleared I realized what Socrates meant when he said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”
 
I took his statement to mean that if you don’t question why you believe what you do and act as you do then you’re simply walking through life following a mindless program imposed upon you.
 
The examined life is a life of your choosing. It isn’t about living up to everyone else’s expectations at the expense of doing what moves your soul.
 
You’ve been aching for a long time to let that part of yourself out, haven’t you?
 
Here’s how you use this to make your dent in the universe. Discover the beliefs that fall apart when they’re examined. The ones that are incomplete, partially true or incorrect altogether and duh duh du daaaaaah! Point it out. THEN, offer something different.
 
The world changers are the ones who ask, “Why?” They challenge the status quo.
 
But that starts small, by asking yourself questions like,
“Says who?”
“Why did I respond that way?”
“How else could I handle that moving forward?”
“Why did I decide that was true?”
 
I ask questions like these of my clients constantly and when they learn to do it for themselves they begin seeing through their habits of self-sabotage and begin living more fully and more happily.
 
They stop hiding behind the wall of conditioning and self-doubt that’s been driving them subconsciously this whole time.
 
What would it mean for you, if you were able to see through your own BS and say, “I see you, I once believed you, but you no longer serve me. I’m trying on a new point of view that has a greater chance of getting me where I want to go?”
 
Seriously, what would it mean to you to be able to get out of your own way, let go of the fear of criticism and confidently give others your best self?
 
Are you ready to break the cycle of self sabotage?
 
Then drop a gif showing me how excited you are about making this change and I’ll send you a link to schedule a time for us to discuss how to make it happen.

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