As an adult with ADHD, growing up in an unsupportive system with parents who didn’t know any better can result in:
✔️A crippling lack of confidence
✔️Low self esteem
✔️The feeling you’re not good enough and less deserving than other people
What if I told you that one thing connecting all those feelings was the belief that if you did something wrong the first time it meant you were a failure.
What if I also told you that shifting your expectation from perfection to curiosity could help liberate you from this suffering.
Instead of hoping, praying and fretting over the need for things to work so you can avoid external and internal (worst of all) criticism.
You instead treat new opportunities like trick or treating. The reveal to see what you’ve gotten is what it’s about.
Once you’ve got it you can decide whether it unlocks an opportunity or deepens the hole you’re in.
You see, what you’ve been given is an “offer” not a commitment. You don’t need to keep it, internalize it and make it part of you. Understand?
Now that it’s in your keep you have a choice to make. You can focus on feelings of disappointment and feel this way for the next 20-30 years as you keep repeating the pattern.
Or you can pick your favorite candies and offer the rest to those who like the things you don’t.
You don’t have to eat all you’re given or believe everything you’ve been told by people who knew what was best for them and worked to convince you it was best for you too.
They didn’t know any better.
Yes, climbing back from what feels like rock bottom can be a daunting task. But imagine how strong you’ll be when you reach the surface again.
The choice is yours.
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