Why do I interrupt so much?

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Conversations tend to have a rhythm.

Think of a jump rope with a person on either end.

You need to jump in or out of the rope’s 360° rotation without interfering with the rope.

You must keep hopping so the rope passes under your feet.

With ADHD you may have a hard time spotting the rhythm. If you do, slower processing speed often leaves you a few steps behind. Hence continuing on discussing a subject the group has moved on from.

This also explains a reason you and I interrupt so often. If you can’t time your entrance in exactly the right spot the rope will hit you and stop.

That’s what an interruption feels like. It disrupts the rhythm of the conversation and frustrates those involved.

I’ve learned to use simple hand gestures to alert others that I’d like to contribute. If they choose to let me in great, if not that’s fine too.

A tendency to interrupt stays with people and works against you. I’ve gotten better and continue to work on it.
 
 

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